Houston and the New look of Pursuit 31 Retreats

Last year the onset of Pursuit 31 rocked my world! I STILL cannot believe how fast the community grew and all that God did through it.  We were able to put on 4 Sold Out retreats all over the country and meet so many amazing women who are passionate about keeping family first in their businesses.  I am continually humbled and blessed to get to be a part of these womens lives.

As much fun as we had last year, traveling every month or so with 2 small kids gets really hard.   The night before I left for New Haven I was in a pile of tears on the floor because our 6 year old had a fever and it went against everything in me to leave.   With the help of my amazing Mom and a few “you can do it” cheers from her and Isaac I bucked up and went.  It was the hardest thing I’ve had to do in business to date, but I know God used it to touch women and help me grow in my trust of Him.  After all, He loves my kids more than I do, which is REALLY hard to comprehend.

Anyway….with all of that said, we know we are called to continue the retreats but we knew 2012 called for some much needed changes.  This year all of our retreats will only be one day.  Last year they went from 10-4 for two days so we were together for 12 hours.  This year we will be meeting from 10 am – 10 pm, STILL 12 hours.  We did this because we didn’t want to lose out on precious time with you, but this allowed me to not be away from my family for quite as long.

The other big change is we will no longer be doing Stylized shoots as a direct part of the P31 retreat.  As much as we LOVE these shoots, planning such huge events in different states proved to have many unforeseen complications in the spirit of simplification we decided to not add that to our plate this year.   The good news is that each of our hostesses will be given the opportunity, if they choose, to host an A’la Carte Stylized shoot the day after our retreat!   We felt that this was the best of both worlds since our hostesses live and network in the cities and have WAY more connections than we do in their locations.  These shoots are in addition to the P31 retreats and will need to be registered for separately.

So now onto the FUN NEWS!!!! Since last spring my inbox has been FLOODED with requests from Texas.  So when it came time to plan for 2012 they were at the top of my list!  In September I had the chance to meet the Adorable Claire OMalley and instantly fell in love with her!  When I found out she was from Houston it confirmed that this needed to be our first stop.  So here is is! We will be taking our New P31 Retreat to Houston on April 4th!!!

Claire has jumped all over the chance to coordinate a stylized shoot for the attendees and I couldn’t be more thrilled! Look at this AMAZING Inspiration Board she has come up with for the shoot! I COULD SQUEAL!!!

So there ya have it!!!! THE NEW P31 Retreat is HERE!

If you are interested in attending, please visit www.pursuit31.com for more information or

REGISTER HERE!!!


Write us a Note

A slight obsession

So as the spring months are quickly approaching and WPPI is around the corner, I have found myself obsessed with online shopping.  I’m one of those girls that could easily let an entire afternoon slip by perusing modcloth and hautelook on my laptop.  And if I’m quite honest… it’s happened a lot lately.  At the end of my shopping extravaganza’s which are made perfect accompanied by baked brie and cream soda,  I’ve found that I have a HUGE obsession with all things ONE SHOULDER!  My dream shopping carts were filled with dresses, tunics, shirts with this commonality and I knew I had a small issue.

Here are some of my favs that I found searching Polyvore…another online addiction.  I thought I would share them so that I could hopefully convince a few of you to join me in my recent obsession.

 

One SHoulder dresses

 


OOOH OOOH! And don’t let me forget.  Today brings about some other super exciting news!  We have now officially switched our Wedding Photography name to Karen & Isaac Stott… so you can now follow us on our

New Facebook Fan page & our New Twitter!

Keep your eyes peeled as the rest of our branding will be making switches over the next month or so.  XOXOXO

Write us a Note

John Farrand - January 19, 2012 - 12:58 PM

Baked Brie and Cream Soda!!!! Ahhhh!! I love it. :D … Since I’m commenting on a post about dresses and shoes.. I think that little pink organza-ish dress on the left is really cute… I also love the platinum shoes… But not the two together, of course. :)

WPPI! hurry up! I can’t wait!

Courtney Clarke - January 19, 2012 - 12:07 PM

Ooooh! I love the black glittery one! I vote that one and the dreamy pink one on the right – there! You’ve got yourself daytime and evening wear all sorted out for Vegas! Excited to see you soon! xo

There will always be haters…

The older I get the more I realize that life doesn’t change much after high school.   I mean, we get older, we get married, and buy houses, and we realize that there is so much more than getting crowned homecoming queen.  Yet sometimes… it still feels like I am walking down that fluorescent lit hallway, late as always, wondering if all of the conversations I am passing are about me.  In a bad way.

I used to think that once I walked off that stage throwing my cap in the air that all of my problems would disappear with all of the trash I cleaned out of my locker.  I would no longer be faced with not “fitting in”, or false rumors, or jealous hatred that came from my successes.  Life would finally be…. happy.  Well, if you are like my husband and are already filling in the next chapter of this story because it’s so predictable, then yes, you’re right.  That is NOT how things turned out.  The rose colored haze that I had painted on the world after high school was merely an idyllic wish based out of my own insecurities.  Looking back I think that I honestly could. not. imagine. a life that continued like those four years.  I simply couldn’t handle it.

Or so I thought.

It’s now been over a decade since I walked out those maroon doors and stepped into my future.  And through kids, life, business, marriage, church, I can honestly tell you that things have not changed.  But what I can say is that I have learned to be happy despite it all.  I’ve learned that no matter what we do or why we do it, someone is always going to dislike me.   There will always be people who love you to your face and bash you to someone else.  Mean people thrive on stirring up rumors, and making you feel less than you are.   If you succeed, jealousy haters will come out of the woodwork to bash you and drag you down.  Or even more exciting, copy what you’ve done pass it off as their own.  As much as we fight it, it just is.   It’s life.  It’s human nature.  And we have to stop worrying about why it’s happening and how to stop it and instead, decide how to go forward.

As I sit here typing this all I can think about was Joseph.  Joseph was sold into slavery out of the jealousy of his own brothers who saw the blessings and favor on his life.   But with everything that the enemy threw at him, and all of the efforts his brothers did to try to tear him down, he came out victorious.  Imagine his situation.  He was stripped and mocked and sold by those closest to him.  All out of jealousy.  What they meant for destruction God used for instruction.  God used those years in slavery to mold Joseph.  To build character and develop within him the leader that He needed to save an entire people.

Blessed is the one who perseveres under trial because, having stood the test, that person will receive the crown of life that the Lord has promised to those who love him.” James 1:12

Although I am a habitual people pleaser and cannot handle the thought of someone being upset with me, I’ve had to learn to really give it up.  As much as I wish I could rub genies lamp and make everything love me, I can’t.  And believe me I’ve given myself a few sore arms trying to prove that theory. But it’s true,  In the past I would drive myself ( and Isaac) absolutely crazy trying make sure everyone was happy.  And It. Was. Exhausting.

It finally came to a halt when this sank in.  There will ALWAYS be haters.    The more this epiphany dug roots into my heart, the more I was able to let go of this ideal that I could make everyone happy.  And the more I let go, the more free I felt.  Not worrying about the people who didn’t care about me, actually gave me more time to love on those that really mattered.  The ones who were always by my side.

So stop worrying and start living.  Stop obsessing about the past and start pushing the limits of your future. Stop listening to the haters and start listening to Him…

Whoa… simmer down Karen… got a lil’ deep on ya:)

But seriously, as much as I hate to admit it to my 17 year old self, I still walk through this every day.  I get hurt when people don’t return my calls or refuse to talk things out, and I have to choose.  Will I allow them to hold me back?  Will I let offense take root and open the door to bitterness?  Or will I walk in grace and choose to forgive?

One of my favorite lines by Taylor Swift says…. “People throw rocks at things that shine.”   So in a nutshell, I decided that instead of getting upset, I am going to pick up all of those rocks and use them to build something epic.

 

Write us a Note

pinky - January 20, 2012 - 12:07 AM

thank you, i really needed this today =)

Shauntelle - January 19, 2012 - 11:02 AM

I was advised to read this today from a friend:) I am thankful I did, and thank you for putting into words the words in my head. Comforting to know that I am not alone.

Alisia K - January 19, 2012 - 7:20 AM

I just love that last line. :)

Chantel Ferraro - January 18, 2012 - 9:56 PM

Amen Sister! I couldn’t have said it better…and believe me, I have. Funny, I just saw Taylor Swifts video this morning…said to myself I love that line… And here you are quoting it. Awesome. You my dear, are an epic woman.

Monica Reid - January 18, 2012 - 2:54 PM

Love it Karen and love PS!! This post is so true and I admit i’m still learning to let go and let God I tend to worry and i hate that part of me that has bitterness or jealousy at times it’s a HARD industry thankfully worth it!

Randa - January 18, 2012 - 2:39 PM

Very well written and said! I surround myself with people who have the same mindset as you! Keep it up!

Erin Oveis Brant - January 18, 2012 - 2:18 PM

Your words really resonate with me today. “What they meant for destruction God used for instruction.”

I have no idea about the exact circumstances that brought you to write this, but it is clear that what they meant for destruction YOU have used for instruction. That is a beautiful and powerful thing! Keep collecting those rocks and keep building <3

Tammy - January 18, 2012 - 11:00 AM

A really awesome post and so very true. U are so honest and loving karen. Thank u for being u.

Jennifer - January 18, 2012 - 10:40 AM

Good. For. You. Karen! Beautifully written and I love the verse you chose for this post. Its so hard when you are a people please to deal with persons who can be so harsh. I too, am learnning to deal with this and it’s no easy task. I think you, and I, will find we can give that energy to our family and be not only a better person but a better Mother too. j

Angelsea Urban - January 18, 2012 - 10:30 AM

Amen sistah! Thank you for sharing your heart and for being a wonderful example to SO many women! You are truly inspiring! XOXO

Jessica Frey - January 18, 2012 - 9:49 AM

Love this post friend….something I know us people pleasers deal with often and sadly enough a feeling that can be appropriate at any stage of this business we all love! Love you for your accomplishments and your heart – proud of you for all you’ve done and thank you for sharing your heart and your successes! Um, and cannot wait to see you next month!!!!!

Faith Cherisse - January 18, 2012 - 7:13 AM

Your already building something EPIC! xoxo

Stacy childers - January 18, 2012 - 3:35 AM

Well Said!

I have had more than my share of haters in this life along with some seriously vicious gossip ( flat out lies) that has brought me to my knees on more than one occasion. It can be heartbreaking when you are in the midst of it and always seemed to go hand it hand with great success.

Love them and pray for them ..that is the only way through it! Love until it hurts and then Love some more. Someone once told me ” People that hate are people that hurt” and I believe it to be true. Love them the best you can knowing that and remember if they weren’t hating on you they would be hating on someone else.

In the end I made the wise choice of stepping out of the circle and allowing it to shift and did it ever!!! No more sleepless nights sobbing in my pillow worrying about what was being said and who was believing it. I let God fight the battle and moved on. Best decision of my life. <3

Kelly - January 17, 2012 - 11:56 PM

Karen, thank you for posting this. I am a people pleaser too and have had to learn to let go and let God. I agree to cherish the friends that are there and stick. Thanks my friend. <3 Kelly

WPPI Survival Guide ~ Top Ten Tips!

I must start off by saying that 2011 was my very first year at WPPI so I am by no means an expert. However I read A LOT, did a ton of prep and walked away from my very first WPPI with an INCREDIBLE experience. Going to Vegas that week changed my life AND my biz and I think it was hands down one of the best investments we have made in our business. And here is why I had such an amazing time… Dare I say it?

Well… it was NOT because I attended WPPI! LOL! As much as I believe in the conference and think it’s an amazing place to be, the hustle and bustle and who’s who game just isn’t for me. Luckily I had read enough ahead of time and was well versed in the do’s and don’ts of this adult high school playground. If I had gone in blindly I’m certain my experience would’ve been polar opposite. So that is why I’m here today… to “hopefully” help you have the best WPPI 2012 experience ever!

So… here the are…. Top 10 WPPI 2012 Survival Tips!

1. Stay at the MGM Signature!

 

Yes this is my #1 Tip! I feel that staying at the Signature was the BEST decision I made last year. I’m not in to gaming, or smoking, or all of the other gross stuff that Vegas stands for so for me I enjoyed being as far removed from that environment as possible. The Signature is a non gaming hotel and pretty much looks like any other high class luxury hotel. You’d never even know you are IN Vegas unless you go on the strip. Staying here gives you a gorgeous room with a mini kitchen and an amazing tub for relaxing your super tired feet! It is also closer to the convention center so the Trade Show and all of the classes are about a 2-3 minute walk. The food court is about five minutes away. The Signature also has it’s own Starbucks so you will avoid the long lines in the Grand. They also have a bunch of little sitting areas, beautiful lobby’s and a few lounges that make a great spot to meet up with friends.

2. Bring your own food!

Food in Vegas is EXPENSIVE and the food court is kinda ridiculous.  Eating out 3 times a day all week can get very expensive. Jessica was kind enough to go grocery shopping for our room since she drove and we all pitched in.  I highly recommend a grocery run the first day you are in town!  We had oatmeal and cereal, water bottles, soda and tons of snacks.  It was so nice to retreat back to our room for a pick me up and a snack without spending a ton of money and wondering where I would sit in the food court!

Me and my amazing roomies Jessica & Courtney! Photo from Jessica’s blog with permission of course.  Forgive the bad hair day… it was my last day in Vegas!

3. FOCUS. FOCUS. FOCUS.

Don’t try and make it to everything! You will stress yourself out! Make a list of the business goals you have and what you NEED to grow in this year. Filter everything through that list and if it will help you grow in that area, do it, if not, pass it up. Like if you REALLY want to learn lighting but you think it would be cool to hear a wedding planner talk, you should probably pass on the planner. Being strategic in what you go to based on what you are NEEDING right now will help you have a more beneficial experience.

4. Set a budget.

Everyone is doing workshops during WPPI because there is a plethora of photographers needing them. That in addition to the crazy amazing Trade show is enough to send you into a financial downspiral of debt. Be intentional on your purchases. Set a budget and stick to it. And I beg you, please do not take your card into the Trade Show:)Go and browse everything and leave your wallet in your room and if you want it bad enough, you can go back later. This will help curb any impulse buys!

5. Make a must see list not a full on schedule.

Last year I had my schedule SOOO jam packed that I literally didn’t leave room to eat! I wanted to do everything and it took about half of Monday to realize that JUST wasn’t going to happen.  I literally had my preboards printed, my show it classes scheduled out, a workshop, a shoot, and about 12 headshot shoots on my agenda.  I even volunteered in the shootsac booth for a few hours.  It was NUTS! I quickly realized that this small town girl COULD NOT keep up with that pace, and I surrendered the “non must do’s) of my schedule.  Sometimes there are just things you can’t plan.  Not even a minute after I sat down to hear the Women in Photography panel I got a text from a dear friend and mentor that she wanted me to come to her room and chat.  I’m not a name dropper so I will keep that private, but, let’s just say this isn’t a text you ignore.  So… I high tailed my buns out of the area and off to her room at 9:30 at night.  It was literally one of the BEST 2 hours of my entire trip and I could never have planned on that time with her.

So… just keep this in mind.  Every hour of your time in Vegas is very valuable.  Plan wisely where you will spend your time and what you will invest in.  You never know what a thirty minute meeting with someone will mean down the road.  For me, I am choosing to invest in people this year.  I have no idea if I will make it to one platform class.. except J&M’s because well… I ADORE them and want to support my dear friends.  This is just my game plan.  If you are in the beginning stages of your business you may want to attend every class possible.  Only you know what you need.

Do your research.  Make a Must do list and leave the rest up to the unexpected fun that is bound to present itself!

6. Share a Google Calendar

Last year there were a few friends that I knew I wanted to keep tabs on so that we could meet up for lunch when possible or stand in line for classes together.  We decided to share calendars so that we always knew where each other was “most likely” to be and where we could connect next.  Since we all had different goals and run different businesses we didn’t want to see the same things so this was a great option and worked extremely well!

7. Bring Walkie Talkies or switch to the Edge.

With 15,000 + Photographers on one network you can only imagine how difficult communication can be! Turn your phone to the E (Edge) Network or bring a walkie talkie if you are trying to keep in touch with one specific person. You think I’m kidding???? I’m totally not!

8. Plan to give back.

You will make far more friends and a much bigger impact if you simply GIVE. Go expecting to give.. not take and you will have a MUCH better experience. Last year I was SOOOO nervous to attend because I literally didn’t know more than a handful of people. I stayed with my dear friends Jessica Frey and Courtney Clarke and probably knew ten more people! I didn’t want to be alone and all 3 of us had crazy different schedules planned. So I posted in Showiteers which probably had 90 or so people at the time that I wanted to do some headshot shoots for free and asked if anyone was interested. My inbox overflowed with people wanting headshots and it was a BLAST! I met some of my closest friends in the industry from those shoots and some of them even turned the camera on me and gave me some fun shots! So think about it and figure out something you could offer… a way to give back.. then announce it and see what happens. I think you will be surprised!

Here is one of my favorites from the shoot I did with Jackie Gannon… View the rest of the Headshot sessions I did last year HERE.

9. Dress in LAYERS!

Vegas is tricky and as much as I thought it would be warm it was frigid!  Comfortable shoes are A MUST because you are walking EVERYWHERE!  But don’t forget to throw in a pair of heels and a sparkly dress in case you want to hit up one of the fab parties!  I found myself wearing leggings, skinny’s boots and cardigans everywhere.  You just never know when you will get too hot or too cold!  I thought I would need a swimsuit but it was just too cold and honestly there just wasn’t time.

I did an entire post last year on Packing for WPPI.  Read that post HERE.

10. Don’t be too hard on yourself.

There is a tendancy to walk away from WPPI a little overwhelmed and frustrated.  Do NOT let it get the best of you!  YOU are amazing!  So what if you didn’t get invited to the cool parties… or if so and so didn’t wave at you in the hallway.  It might seem like everyone there has it all together… and trust me, 90 % of them act like they do… but it’s okay.  Let them act that way.  They’ve got nothing on you, because YOU are who does that best!

If you go with

~ goals in mind…

~ areas that you want to grow…

~ relationships you really want to foster AND…..

~ you STICK to that…

IT WILL BE SUCCESSFUL!

 

YAY! We made it through the top 10! I hope these will help you to have a wonderful time at WPPI!  I hope to see you around! And if you do, please come up and say hi and if I may be so bold, tell me your name.  I am TERRIBLE with names but always remember faces!

AND WAIT! THERE’S MORE!!!

So we know that Re-Branding seems to be the BUZZ word this year and we want to help someone out! We want to give someone a complete Branding Photo Shoot of yourself or your team to use on your re-brand! These will be 60-90 minute sessions taking place at WPPI and you can do outfit changes, go to coffee, do whatever! We just want to help showcase you for your new site and blog! We could even make it a fusion video if you want! If you are interested just head on over to our fan page, give us some “like” love and then leave a comment that says something about WPPI!!! In about a week we will collect all of the comments and randomly select a winner… or two! Who knows what we will feel like doing with all of the love from you guys!  Remember you have to LIKE AND COMMENT for your entry to be valid:)

Comment on our New Fan page and win a Re-Brand Photoshoot HERE!

Can’t wait to see you in Vegas!

 


xoxo,
Karen

 

 

Write us a Note

Rachel Abelson - January 16, 2012 - 5:50 PM

Wow! Such great advice for a first timer! Thanks for doing the contest! Can’t wait for WPPI!!!!

Kelly - January 11, 2012 - 10:29 PM

Karen what a great post. Thank you for the great advice. I am bummed I didn’t get a room at the Signature but I’ll be at the Grand. Thanks for always being such a giver! God bless.

Elizabeth Langford - January 11, 2012 - 5:41 PM

Fabulous advice Karen! 2012 is my first full WPPI experience… last year I only went for one day to go to the trade show. Looking forward to following your suggestions and having an amazing time… and of course that includes meeting you and Isaac in person!!

Finding freedom & joy in the midst of Chaos…

I have been a full time photographer/ mom/ wife for the past 5 years. At first I refrained from calling myself a full time photographer because I did have so many other things tugging at me for my time. However when it came down to it, I calculated out just how much time was going into my photography business, I quickly realized. Yes. I do run a Full Time photography business. The catch is… when normal people have a 9-5/40 hour workweek to fulfill their full time work duties… I probably have around 15. And most likely it looks like this… an hour during naptime… 3 hours after the kids go to sleep and before I go to sleep….. 30 minutes while hubby is in the shower and so on…. 15 hours yes. But all jumbled up in the middle of what I call the working from home nightmare.

It took a few years. But soon I realized that I was not cut out for this chaotic lifestyle. I was miserable. My kids became extra needy and my husband was resenting the time I spent on my business. It was not working. The stress in our household made me resent my camera as well. I hated my computer, stopped answering client calls and went into shut down mode. I began to miss my pre-business owner life. The one where I had coffee with friends. Went on dates with my husband. And actually had time for myself. I had hit the bottom. And I wanted out.

During this time the Lord began to show me that my camera was just an instrument. It was just a door that would open up my life to a deeper calling. If I would just surrender. It wasn’t really photography that I had began to hate. It was the fact that it was overtaking my life. Things HAD to change. I decided to start over from scratch. This time, the Lord was going to build it all. I had to let go of everything to actually find who I was supposed to be. Over the next few months He highlighted my specialties. He helped me build my brand and HE aligned my schedule and helped me prioritize.

It’s been almost a year now and I sit here looking back almost baffled at all the Lord has done. My business has been restored to something I love, thrive at and it actually blesses our family. My children are happier and more fulfilled knowing that they are a priority over my business. My friendships have been challenged but risen above it in the end. I have found out who my real friends are and who will fall when things get tough… And I’m okay with that. The road ahead will need committed friendships and I feel blessed knowing who those are now.

The most amazing part however is that Isaac and I are at a completely different place.. The stress, anxiety and frustration that used to fill our home has been replaced with praises to our King, contagious laughter and doe eyed flirting. It is unbelievable, and slightly sickening if you’ve spend much time around us! LOL!  Our marriage has never been more full of life, and love and fire. I just feel like a lovesick bride again and it’s been amazing.

And that’s what happens… That is what can happen when we take our crumbled up messy life and surrender it to Him. He can make the broken pieces into an amazing new person. An amazing new life, and He did that for me.

And I know that His heart is crying out for the chance to do it for you.  All you have to do is ask.

And if you need support along the way, I’m always here….

xoxo,
Karen

…………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………….

About a year ago we started a community called Pursuit 31 to connect with other women who are sharing this chaotic path. It’s a place to share, dream big, ask for help, encourage others and just be you… freely and loved. Here is a little video we put together to help show the heart of what P31 is all about… ENJOY!

 

Join Pursuit 31 | Visit the Website | P31 Facebook

Get on the Conference List

Write us a Note

Heidi - January 5, 2012 - 1:59 PM

Wonderful post Karen!!!

Kristin - January 5, 2012 - 11:19 AM

This made me tear up a little bit! God truly is glorious and MERCIFUL! So incredibly merciful! It’s so encouraging to hear of people giving God control. This is a lesson I seem to keep having to relearn, but in the end, giving God the reins I was fighting so hard to hold onto is always a thousand times better than anything I could have dreamt!
Thank you so much for this reminder!

Annette Turner - January 5, 2012 - 11:17 AM

Thank you for sharing this incredibly inspring message of faith and for your continued support of others! May God continue with His blessings upon you and your family!

Bethany Chase - January 5, 2012 - 11:06 AM

would you mind sending me your email address? i am so totally THERE right now, and i would love to chat with you.

Krista Conway - January 5, 2012 - 11:00 AM

Love it!! Thanks for sharing your heart!

J o i n   M e   o n   F a c e b o o k